You know what absolutely sucks?
Feeling so f*cking stuck, while not knowing how to break past it.
I call it "the glass-ceiling feeling."
Spiritual blue balls, perhaps.
It's that feeling where you can TASTE that next level.
You can feel it.
It feels like you're so *ffing close to breaking through, yet YOU JUST CAN'T SEEM TO GET THERE.
And what's even more frustrating about this, is OFTEN TIMES YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO.
Yet, the reason you can't get there is that you're having trouble changing some set of behaviors.
You continue to stay stuck, because of some loop you're in.
And the longer the loop goes on, the more frustrated, angry, and eventually hopeless you become.
But perhaps the things that keep you going are:
1] The next level feels so close.
2] You have a strong "why"
3] Giving up is for losers and you don't do that
4] I mean, is there any other choice but to keep going?
As you're spinning your wheels, trying to make progress, and continue to get stuck again and again, you watch others around you making progress.
And you wonder...
What the hell is wrong with me?
What do they know that I don't?
Are they more talented?
God likes them more?
In a better business?
If you're reading this, you know that's all bullsh*t.
You know that you are responsible for your future outcomes and that even though you're not sure what to do, deep inside, you know have control.
So what actually are the factors that allow for continual progress?
As many of you know by now, I speak on topics I've gained some proficiency in because I've literally made every mistake in the book.
I experience phases in life, (like right now) where I feel so d*mn stuck, but the good news for me is that I've developed a set of guiding principles and tools to constantly help me get "unstuck."
Let's start by defining what this "stuck" feeling actually is…
For most people, this "stuck" feeling is when the material world doesn't seem to be changing fast enough around them, or progress doesn't seem to be made.
It's when the scale doesn't budge, the monthly revenue in your business doesn't go up, or the girl you are pursuing is interested in you, but for some reason doesn't want to be in a relationship with you.
How can you characterize a feeling by external conditions?
Stuck = feeling.
All the stuff I named above is external conditions.
You see, whenever I "feel stuck," and start to look outward and attribute the feeling to the outer world, I take control out of my own hands.
One of the conditions of feeling stuck is feeling a sense of powerlessness.
If you had FULL POWER of your situation, and you truly FELT that power, would you reallllly feel stuck?
The answer is absolutely not.
And so, step number 1 to getting unstuck, is to acknowledge that being stuck is simply feeling stuck, and that feeling stuck is not a result of your external conditions, but rather a condition of the things you are doing (or not doing).
The power is in your hands baby!
So what now?
Those that are the most successful identify the highest-leverage activities that work together concurrently, and then do the highest volume of this as possible.
Read that again, and if it doesn't make sense to you, too bad.
I'll explain with a few examples.
The soccer player that has the fitness level to perform optimally for 90 minutes on the pitch, doesn't need to bench press 315.
Sure - he absolutely would be best served by doing plyometrics, and some form of strength training, especially in today's era.
But for him, being "soccer-fit," requires a combination of explosiveness, cardiovascular endurance, muscular endurance, agility, balance, stability, flexibility, and mobility.
Identifying how much of each, then working towards increasing each variable here in a way that works synergistically, will get him better and better.
The higher the level of play, the more precise he has to be in identifying these factors, and the more consistent he has to be in his execution.
As he navigates his soccer career, he must recognize when he's focusing on THE WRONG things, and either stop doing them or minimize them, while MAXIMIZING his focus on the right things...
If he keeps getting tired in the 60th minute of the game, maybe his cardiovascular endurance needs work.
If he goes up to head a ball but keeps getting "outjumped," maybe he needs to work on his explosiveness.
If he's an attacking player that gets into positions to score goals but keeps missing the goal, perhaps he needs to work on his finishing ability or his shooting.
This applies to you too.
Stuck in your weight loss journey?
Maybe doing "more cardio," isn't the answer.
Maybe your preconceived idea that “calories in vs. calories out are the only thing that matters” is wrong.
Maybe what got you HERE, won't get you THERE.
Maybe the plateau you're struggling with requires a new level of thinking.
Maybe you need to identify the highest leverage activities and do those.
A coach helps here.
MENTORS are amazing tools.
Meditation, and dare I say - microdosing psychedelics, have helped some of my friends who aren't me.
Lots and lots of meditation.
Now, one of the biggest things that get in the way of identifying and doing the highest-leverage tasks is doing the sh*t that doesn't matter.
First, cut out the time wasters.
The doom-scrolling NEEEEDS to go.
Coach Neal commands you to stop wasting bullsh*t time.
You get 75 - 110 years on this earth.
Compulsively scrolling on Instagram does not give your life meaning, and it certainly doesn't help you get closer to your goals.
Once you've cut the time wasters out, you're left with tasks that actually make a difference.
The ones that don't make much of a difference?
Well, you need to eliminate those things, outsource them, or delegate them.
Entrepreneurs - this one especially applies to you but applies to truly everyone.
If I'm going to recap this newsletter into two sentences, it’s this:
If you feel stuck in life, you're experiencing a feeling that you have the power to change, not a rigid material condition that you are powerless over. To change this feeling, valiantly identify the things that matter, do more of those, and do less of the things that don't matter.
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